Sunday, May 24, 2015

The Eyes of a Bully

The definition of bullying is: unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time.

Bullying has been around for hundreds of years.  Even in biblical times, people who were less than perfect were cast by stones.   Today bullying has become a lot more sophisticated, instead of casting stones we now deface people over social media.  The term is called cyber bullying.  The intricacy of cyber bullying allows for thousands of people to see cyber bullying posts.  Cyber bullying has a domino effect as the increased traffic promotes more bullying other than the bully them-self.   This causes greater embarrassment and shame to the victims.

As a child I was victim to schoolyard bullying which led into my teenage years. I consider myself lucky now because there was no social media back then.   I was able to endure all of the bullying as I grew up, however it left lasting scars as I progressed into adulthood.  I was insecure and would never smile for pictures because of the overbite I had.  I was called things like”bucky”,”bugs bunny” and “beaver”.  This left a lasting impression that I decided to get braces at the age of 27 to eliminate the insecurities I lived with.  As children we are shameless and we think bullying is harmless.  We have little comprehension that this teasing can cause long term effects on the victims and for some it can have a devastating outcomes.

I was able to forgive the bullies I brushed shoulders with.  I actually saw into the eyes of a bully it was them I empathized.  Many bullies are victims of bullies themselves which in turn turns them into a bully. The bullies themselves are generally insecure and when they are bullying others it provides them with superficial power. They are starving for attention  and this attention stems into bullying.  The next time you come across a bully remember that their soul is weakened and bruised and you possess the strength and spiritual health they do not. Don't give them the power, stand up to them and guide them to path of spiritual recovery.  

Bullying unfortunately will always exist in the world we live in today as it has for many hundred years, but society needs to accept that we are all unique.  Imperfection is the world we live in.  If we were all perfect then we would all look the same.

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